Why do some moments shift us forever, and others change nothing despite all our effort?

There was a time in my life when I was in a lot of pain, actual physical pain. For four years, the entire left side of my body hurt so badly that I could barely sleep at night.

It was difficult to bear, but the mental pain was worse. I would lie awake, haunted by the thought that something was seriously wrong with me, that I might even die from it.

Even though part of me knew this probably wasn’t true, the thought still made me anxious and heavy with dread.

I saw all kinds of doctors searching for answers. But no one could find a cause. Eventually, a specialist told me it was “all in my head.”

That made me furious! It felt like he was saying it wasn’t real.

I tried so many things to feel better — painkillers, cognitive behavioral therapy, walking, osteopathic treatment — you name it. Some of it helped, but nothing brought lasting relief.

And then, quite unexpectedly, the pain disappeare...

Warum verändern uns manche Momente für immer, während andere, trotz aller Anstrengung, nichts bewirken?

Es gab eine Zeit in meinem Leben, da hatte ich starke Schmerzen – echte, körperliche Schmerzen. Vier Jahre lang schmerzte meine gesamte linke Körperhälfte so sehr, dass ich nachts kaum schlafen konnte.

Das war schwer zu ertragen, aber der seelische Schmerz war noch schlimmer. Ich lag wach und wurde von dem Gedanken gequält, dass etwas ernsthaft mit mir nicht stimmte – dass ich vielleicht sogar daran sterben könnte.

Obwohl ein Teil von mir wusste, dass das wahrscheinlich nicht stimmte, machte mich dieser Gedanke ängstlich und erfüllte mich mit schwerer Sorge.

Ich suchte zahlreiche Ärzte auf, um Antworten zu finden. Aber niemand konnte eine Ursache feststellen. Schließlich sagte mir ein Spezialist, es sei „alles nur in meinem Kopf“.

Das machte mich sowas von wütend! Es fühlte sich an, als würde er sagen, meine Erfahrung sei nicht real.

Ich probierte viele Dinge aus, um mich ...

How hope and inner peace emerge — even in a refugee camp

I’ve been working virtually in the Nakivale Refugee Settlement in Uganda for the past nine months. The refugees there have been learning about the Three Principles—the profound teachings of Sydney Banks—through an initiative called 3P in Africa.

A few weeks ago, my friend Tayebwa Philips, who leads the 3P Nakivale Addiction and Mental Health Team, visited one of the villages in the camp called Kabazana. He spent time speaking with community members and gathering their personal stories.

Having been involved in these projects for some time now, I’ve seen firsthand the impact the Three Principles can have on the lives of refugees. And yet, every time I hear their stories, I’m moved all over again by what they say has changed for them.

There is something deeply hopeful in the fact that people who have lost so much to war and conflict—and who continue to face daily hardships like lack of food, shelter, and education—often say they...

Wie Hoffnung und innerer Frieden selbst im Flüchtlingslager entstehen

Seit neun Monaten arbeite ich online im Nakivale Flüchtlingslager in Uganda. Die Geflüchteten dort lernen die Drei Prinzipien – die Lehren von Sydney Banks – durch ein Projekt namens 3P in Afrika kennen.

Vor ein paar Wochen besuchte mein Freund Tayebwa Philips, der das 3P-Team für Alkoholsucht und mentale Gesundheit in Nakivale leitet, ein Dorf im Lager namens Kabazana. Er sprach mit den Menschen dort und sammelte ihre Geschichten.

Seit einiger Zeit bin ich Teil dieser Projekte und durfte selbst miterleben, welche tiefgreifende Wirkung die Drei Prinzipien auf das Leben der Geflüchteten haben. Trotzdem bin ich jedes Mal aufs Neue bewegt, wenn ich ihre Geschichten höre und erfahre, was sich für sie verändert hat.

Es ist sehr hoffnungsvoll zu sehen, dass Menschen, die so viel durch Krieg und Konflikt verloren haben – und die täglich ums Überleben kämpfen müssen – trotzdem oft sagen: „Ich lebe glücklich.“

In mein...

Hello dear reader,

Everyone has a dream for their life.

I used to dream of slowing down, being less stressed, and having more time for myself to relax and do fun things.

“That’s not much of a dream!” you might say. But back then, it was HUGE to me … and seemed practically unachievable. I’m happy to report, that dream came true.

More recently, I dreamed of making a difference in the world. Another deep desire was to be more impactful in my work as a coach. That dream is still unfolding.

Dreams, big and small, we’ve all got them…

One of my clients dreams of finding happiness after years of struggling with anxiety, depression, and self-doubt.

Another hopes for a fulfilling home life, with strong connections to his wife and children.

My ‘soulpreneurs’ want a full bank account that amply covers their living expenses—they dream of getting there with ease and joy.

So many wonderful dreams … and so much mental noise clouding the experience and getting in the way.

A wonderful person I...

Hello, dear Reader; I hope you are healthy and thriving!

This week felt like such a blessing.

Mother Nature showered her splendor upon the fields, the forest, and the flowers, turning the landscape into a sea of green.

While 'Mind,' the deeper Intelligence behind life, showered insights onto so many people I came into contact with this week.

That’s the beauty of this job called 'Transformative Coaching' …

It’s someone coming in feeling like they’ve got a serious addiction they have to manage with more restrictions and discipline ... and seeing them realize there’s nothing wrong with them, feel happier, and make healthier choices effortlessly.

It's hearing a WhatsApp message and feeling so much joy as a client giddily shares they went dancing for the first time in ages, having been stuck in a state of exhaustion for years.

Witnessing her wake up to the illusion of her stressful thinking, fall into presence, connect with the deeper intelligence, and then design her dream business ...

Hey, dearest Reader! Are you aware of the transformative power of slowing down?

Back in 2015, I launched my signature training program, the "Successful Soulopreneur System." One of the very first lessons I shared with my coaches was simple but profound:

"Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast."

It’s a powerful mantra instilled in Marine Corps Special Operations units from day one of their rigorous training. The idea is that slow, careful movements lead to faster and safer task completion, especially in high-pressure situations.

This mantra isn't just a military maxim; it can be a guiding principle for success in life and any field.

I recently came across this idea again while reading "The Prosperous Coach" with one of my clients, who is in the process of building her coaching practice.

In a chapter by Rich Litvin called “Slow down to speed up success,” he delves into the space where miracles occur—a space he created by intentionally slowing everything down.

Allow me to share a paraphras...

The other day, I was scrolling through Facebook during a break and came across this post on Elsie Spittle’s page '3 Principles for Human Development' ...

"In the early days, Syd (Sydney Banks) told me not to focus on my problems. He said to be grateful for what was right in my life; then, what I saw as wrong would be resolved. I thought he was in denial! I was wrong. He was right."

This struck a chord with me – it was almost the same deep insight I had last summer while going through a tough time. I thought I’d share it with you in case you need to hear it today.

Alright, I’m off on an adventure. Catch you back here next week.

So much love,

Shailia

P.S.

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Neulich war ich auf Facebook unterwegs und stieß dabei auf einen Beitrag auf Elsie Spittles Seite „3 Principles for Human Development“. Es lies sich so …

"In den frühen Tagen sagte Syd (Sydney Banks) mir, ich solle mich nicht auf meine Probleme konzentrieren. Er sagte, ich solle dankbar sein für das, was in meinem Leben richtig war; dann würden sich die Dinge, die ich als falsch sah, von selbst lösen. Ich dachte, er verleugnet die Realität! Ich lag falsch. Er hatte recht."

Das hat mich sehr berührt – es war fast genau die tiefe Erkenntnis, die ich letzten Sommer hatte, als ich selbst eine schwierige Zeit durchmachte.

Ich wollte es mit dir teilen, falls es dir heute guttut zu hören. ✨ 💖

Okay, ich bin jetzt auf kleinem Abenteuer unterwegs. Wir sehen uns nächste Woche wieder.

Herzlichst,

Shailia

P.S.

Bereit, das Gute in deinem Leben oder Business zu etwas noch Erstaunlicherem erblühen zu lassen? Komm zu einem persönlichen Gespräch, um deine mentale Last zu erleichtern und einen he...

Hello dear Reader,

It’s easy to look out into the world and feel disheartened by what we see – ungrateful people, excessive consumption, too little compassion, too much noise (in the media, your industry, wherever).

Sydney Banks who discovered the ‘3 Principles’ said it simply:

“You are society. Change yourself and the world will change.”

If this is true, then these things must also hold true …

If you want more peace and less conflict, find peace within yourself. Expand your capacity to love if you yearn for a more loving world. If you crave more signal and less noise, quiet your mind.

One path toward this is engaging in meaningful conversations that reveal our true essence – sometimes I call it 'listening to Truth'.

That's precisely what yesterday's watch party was about – hearing Sydney Banks' first student, Elsie Spittle, share her journey of overcoming depression and anger to discover her true worthiness

… recognizing and tapping into the hidden wellspring of wisdom, unders...